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Sunday, 14 September 2014

Sex Toy

A short entry, because I am five.

Also, a line-break, because TMI.

Tilly and I discussed things ages back. I was amazed to discover she does not already have a vibrator/dildo (I thought all women did that now) and I suggested that she might want one. I misunderstood her response (she said something like she wouldn't want it as her only present - she meant not at all, I thought that a reasonable distinction meaning I could get her one, provided it wasn't her only present - I'm literal).

I bought her a sex toy.

And this is the offending (offensive?) article.

I realise, having done this, that it's a not a brilliant idea. It's up there with buying knickers or clothes for her: I can try my level best to get her something she would like rather than something I would like to see her in but, ultimately, she hasn't chosen it. Ergo, they will never match what she would buy for herself. In many ways it's a denial of agency, choice and disempowering to a woman to buy things like that for them as a male (even one such as myself). Of course, I didn't think about that until after I'd bought it and it was next to impossible to return (long story, long boring story, I shan't go into it). I think, I almost know, that this was a poor gift and that it won't ever be used. For any reason. Not even as a joke.

But I'm still sniggering on the inside, because I am five.


  1. http://www.amazon.com/Authentic-Hitachi-Magic-Original-Warranty/dp/B00MVK4WRO/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1410742919&sr=8-2&keywords=hitachi+magic+wand

    I got my girlfriend one of these a few years ago and she loves it. I work 1st shift and she works a modified 2nd so we don't always have time to hook up during the week. I swear, the two settings are motorcycle and runaway washing machine! Sometimes I use it for a sore shoulder or calf too, so its dual purpose! You know its good because just about every internet porn star uses these in videos and photos!

    Don't be too hard on yourself. You are trying and if she can't even appreciate the effort .. don't sweat it!

    1. I had thought about something of that nature, but knew that Tilly was unlikely to jump to it, so to speak, so it was partly a joke (hence lower end of the market whilst, hopefully, remaining a qualitative item).

      Mind you, Tilly says she specifically said no when we had a conversation, and went further to state unequivocally that she didn't want anything like this. I can hardly call my gift 'trying' so much as unwanted gifting - which we know is of the Devil. So, in fairness, I'm not sure there's any effort to appreciate. :)


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