Last night, taking the Boy to bed, I fell asleep and did not rouse until 1am. We had planned to do writing. This morning I have managed to make my Boy so sad that he has started to cry. Go me. Like I say, there's a line break and it's there for a good reason.
|What can I say?|
|Not the Boy, but a boy, in a dress.|
Our Boy has worn a tutu before now,
just 'cos, and hasn't been discouraged
Sure enough, at teatime, our daughter started tantruming. She fell over on the table, she shouted, she spat, she wouldn't eat, she cried, she was rude, made stupid noises. Now, I had previously been told I was being too angry with the Boy in the morning and with Girlie the night before. Tilly was handling this one. Long story short, I ended up in the middle of a shouting match twixt Girlie and Tilly and a crying match twixt Girlie and the Boy. I reacted badly. I took the Boy to his bedtime routine and then fell asleep.
|Interesting. Check this out:|
Enjoy the Silence it's a parenting
blog that addresses some of the issues
I raise here.
No permission has been given for my
use of this image. I shall happily take it
down if requested.
He can wear dresses, engage in girlie tasks, like pink and ribbons and frills and lace, paint his nails, wear make up, share bubble baths of a feminine nature, flounce and whatever else and this is something to be championed in our patriarchal world. He is lauded, as a small child, for all the stuff that I am reviled for by the same woman. And that rankles. It's not the fault of the Boy, I know, no point getting upset with him. But there is a move to normalise such behaviour in children, especially boys emulating girls (mainly because girls emulating boys already has a name and is already considered, generally, just fine), and the reasons that are used to defend it seem eminently applicable to my own form of dressing. But they are not considered similar or even related and I guess I have a hard time reconciling that.
|Close, my skirt is lighter and the sweater has|
shorter sleeves and is a deeper red.
The blouse layer effect is also white with
pink detailing. I'd say 'close enough' but it...
well, it's close enough to give an impression.
The Boy wears the clothes he does, the dresses and the pink and the nail varnish, to feel part of the group and because he likes it. In fact, does it even matter why he does it so long as it's his decision? That is why Tilly supports what the Boy does and, indeed, why I do too. I'm just wondering when the same logic would be applied my way.