|This is of Brian and Debbie. It is a great picture. For many|
many reasons. None of them are related to physical
This resonates particularly at the moment because of this post (and the subsequent comments section, well worth a read!) and the videos contained there (I still haven't watched the second part as of this writing). It also hits home because of the discussions I've had with Tilly about Valentine's recently.
After all, Valentimes is serious times!
|Eh, close enough!|
|But the toilet brush is the same purple, the floor is|
beech and there's a purple bin on the other side of
Aren't you glad I've gone into so much detail about
She became quite explicit that her main issue was the lack of being able to have sex. I was pleasantly shocked but didn't really know what to say. Then, on the day itself, flowers left for her in the morning, Tilly explained that she had planned to get sexy underthings and surprise me with them (on her, by the by) but had been unable to do so due to feeling ill and on her period. She suggested that she may do so in the future.
|And this image, from that site that spawned a huge|
conversation, helps to sum up part of why I am SO
uneasy about the scenario whilst, at the same time,
being rather turned on by the whole concept.
It's called "consent". The site is here:
Now, the concept that I would have to be involved in the decision-making process is a chilling one. Why should I have any input into Tilly's underwear? I wouldn't expect her to have any input in my choices of the same.
Don't get me wrong, I am flattered, I am just a little uneasy about it.
Thus back to the article. I'd sooner have that acceptance of my choices than have Tilly try to please me through her own choices. We should be about respecting each other's choices more than about trying to second guess each other's preferences in sexy times. Especially as, generally speaking, I'm less interested in PIV sex than she thinks I am or than I think she is. I would like to explore more orally and mutual masturbationary than I think she would even like to think about, let alone try, and that is disquieting too. I mean, I think she might actually like it, but she is conditioned to think of sex as PIV only (no, really) and believe that foreplay (and afterplay) is something that men don't want, regardless of what I actually say on the matter. Or she really doesn't enjoy foreplay either. Hell, she's not even a fan of climaxing!
I need a new tag. One that denotes TMI!