|Sharpe's Totty - Jane Gibbons, who will|
become his wife out of gratitude, wise
up and then attempt to destroy him.
As I am dutifully looking up dressing services (another post methinks) as suggested by Rhi, Tilly pipes up having discovered a post on Facebook from a fellow non-mainstream parent about make-up. They were talking about how they have shown what it is and how it works to their daughter - talking to them without wearing make-up about how make-up is a mask people wear etc. Now, Tilly's beef with this was that, if people want to wear make-up, they should be allowed to. The way, she says, to deal with it, is to be frank and to be honest. Whilst she would discourage our two from wearing it she would buy some in if it turned out that it was a big thing for either or both of them. She said that the main issue was, and I'll try to quote exactly, when something became powerful in the negative, that is, when one did not do it. "I have no problem," she said "with people doing things they want to do, but I do if not doing it makes people unhappy with their identity".
|Is this what I do to Tilly?|
ADDENDUM: a rather heated discussion later and Tilly says I "always make [her] feel shitty about [her] choices" because I push the whole aspect of challenge. It actually is the same conversation but with a different topic.
The double standard is fascinating.