I feel a bit odd asking this. Please note that I have worked hard to keep this blog honest but totally anonymous - there are no links twixt it and my 'real' life beyond me. Indeed, no one that I know from work or family or friends even knows this blog (or my alter-ego on Google+) exists. I say this because of the details that follow. They are, I hope, anonymous enough to maintain this distance. Also, to reassure people given my request.
I think I've mentioned, ad nauseam, the fact that I'm a teacher. Well, I teach at a school that covers 11 to 18 year olds. It turns out that we are to receive a student that is MtF next September and, being in the cross-dressing TG box myself, my ears pricked up and I wanted to be involved.
Now, the rest of this post is probably quite sensitive. If you already feel like you know too much, I won't be offended if you let me know and ask that I put the break below a little higher in the post!
So, I don't know all that much. No one at the school does. I mean, obviously, my own status is totally unknown to anyone working there and so is the existence of this blog. However, we are a very inclusive school and have done loads of work on making it so - I actually think that's one of the best bits of where I work: the fact that student body are lovely and inclusive.
Mind you, a MtF 11 year old may push boundaries further than the school can handle. So far as I know it's not actually legal for such a student to properly transition until they are much older. This means that she will still be physically male when they arrive even if she is mentally and outwardly female. There are some things we can't change - the unfortunate legal position here means that all documentation and tracking data will list her as a male, though she will be referred to as a female in class and by staff (if that's not a recipe for disaster with well-meaning staff that forget I don't know what is).
Well, I was wondering if I might ask for a bit of help.
Have any of you attended school MtF and what have been your experiences - what worked to support you and what did not? Were there any well-meaning but ultimately hideously stupid things that staff did? If there were horror stories what do you think could have been done to prevent them happening or even just make things more bearable?
If, like me, you've never revealed anything to school, what would have made school a place where you would have felt more safe? What sort of things would you have liked school to do in terms of preparing other students or staff?
You can leave comments here, obviously, and they can be as anonymous as you like. I don't track anything about commenters unless you want me to (i.e. I think I've turned Captcha off and I'm reasonably certain you can leave comments anonymously). However, if that doesn't work then please use my e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org to let me know anything you feel comfortable sharing.
I realise that this is a difficult and grey area. My colleagues at where I work are keen for this to work and be done with little fuss or drawing attention to it. I wish to support them, and the student, as much as I can - obviously - and I want it to work. You can, hopefully, see my vested interest in this case. My employers, my colleagues, do not know about this request and I shan't be using names or other identifiable features from anything you wish to share with me. If any of you have any concerns about what I've asked here, let me know and I shall do what I can to limit any problems you spot.
Finally, thank you in advance, even if you read and say nothing. I am in your debt.
Words of warning and welcome:
This is very much my blog, so don't be surprised if this doesn't follow accepted patterns and norms. Obviously it started out as a blog about my cross-dressing but it has developed a great deal since then. It is a place where I can be anonymous and honest, and I appreciate that.
It will deal with many things and new readers would do well to check out the New Readers' Page above this and the tag down there on the right. Although there's nothing too bad in here there will be adult language, so be careful. If you think this needs a greater control, please let me know. Thank you!